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Making The Mind Your Best Friend—Overcome Negative Thinking—Becoming A Master Of Thought—(Part 3)

Making The Mind Your Best Friend—How to overcome negative thinking and live the good life.

Our mind reacts to our environment a rather reflexive way.

Thoughts run in and out of our awareness on a practically constant basis, producing sometimes irrational and some being outright strange images, beliefs, and feelings.

The issue I’d like to tackle here is that we tend to take our thoughts seriously which can make the mind your biggest enemy.

Let’s Make The Mind Your Best Friend

Our thoughts and our mind helps guide us through some of life’s most challenging events and tasks such as succeeding in our work/career, completing an education, and navigating relationships.

Our mind helps us to problem-solve, discover new things, concentrate on difficult tasks, and recall information.

These are just a few examples of the functions of our mind and our thoughts and they are essential to our survival as a species.

We Rely On It To Get Us Through Life, To Achieve, And To Grow.

We lean heavily into these incredible ability’s of mind and learn to attach ourselves to it and and thought.

But What Happens When Our Thoughts Are Not Useful, Goal-Oriented, And Efficient?

What happens when our thoughts take us places we don’t want to go?

Although our mind produces thoughts that help us through purposeful tasks, we must realize that our mind, when left on its own to wander, will begin a process that I like to call random creation.

The mind will serve this purposeless function of creating thoughts that are not necessarily in line with who we are, what we feel, and what we believe.

We internalize these thoughts, thinking that the thoughts represent us, that the thoughts are a depiction of what is going on within us and around us.

We believe that we are our thoughts.

This Is Commonly Referred To As Being Overly Attached To Our Thoughts.

When our thoughts take an unexpected (and unhelpful) direction, its like being in the driver’s seat of a car, but feeling as if someone else is controlling the steering wheel, the gas pedal, and the brakes, all at the same time.

We try desperately to take control of the wheel due to fear of crashing and in our desperation, we risk doing just that: Crash.

We start to focus on the things we don’t want to think about and in turn, think about them even more.

The Trick Is To Cease Control Completely.

Let go of the wheel.

How do you let go?

Just as you would a heavy bag.

Drop it.

Don’t try to control the thoughts.

Let them go.

When we are attached/separate, we realize that our mind is developing thoughts that do not represent who we are, but we struggle to draw the line in the sand between the self and thought.

We engage in harshly judging the thoughts (and ourselves too) and we can become emotionally and even physically drained by our thoughts, as they can at times dictate how we function and the quality of our day-to-day life.

This creates a self-reinforcing loop of suffering that is simply not necessary.

The person who suffers before it is necessary, suffers more than is necessary.

When the self and thought are separate, we are free from the emotional burden that thoughts can create.

We see thoughts as a separate entity from the self and this is when we interpret thoughts as neither good or bad, helpful or harmful, positive or negative.

We are able to observe thoughts as they come and go without feeling shame, anxiety, worry, or sadness as a result.

This gives us the clarity to become more present in our lives, to make better decisions, to experience greater creativity, and to enjoy our lives more freely.

As Mentioned Earlier…

The mind can be your best friend, helping you solve problem, build meaningful relationships, and bring  safety to your ;life.

However, the mind can be your worst enemy, telling you things like ‘you’re not good enough,’ ‘you don’t deserve what you want,’ or something as severe as ‘you should kill yourself.’

In my life, I have experience those, and many more negative thoughts pop into my head.

Fortunately, I was able to rectify this relationship between myself and the mind.

Here Is How…

See the mind as a garden.

Thoughts such as ‘you aren’t good enough’ are the weeds of your garden.

Thoughts such as ‘what can I learn from this?’ ‘what am I grateful for,’ or ‘how can I use this experience to help me in the future;’ are the roses and tulips.

It takes very little, if any, work for weeds to grow in your garden.

As in, if you don’t tend to your garden the weeds will grow.

The Key To A Healthy Garden

A.K.A. a healthy mind.

Is to tend your garden.

You have to plant the seeds of the type of vegetation you want reap later on.

You must tend to these seeds by watering them, fertilizing them, and pull out any weeds before they grow bigger—kill the monster while it’s small.

If You Wish To Reap Roses, Plant Rose Seeds.

What I really mean is if you want to feel a happy, plant the seeds of happiness in your mind.

Do things you love to do, read books that inspire you, listen to motivational speeches.

If you want to be a successful entrepreneur, then the seeds you want to plant are that of hard work, self-education, tenacity, strength, and wisdom.

If you are someone who wants to be successful entrepreneur and are drinking every night, you are basically planting cucumber seeds, expecting a rose to sprout.

What You Sow Is What You Reap.

Sow the seeds of wisdom, inspiration, motivation, by reading something daily that will give you the insights you need to succeed at what it is you want to do.

Here is my challenge to you…

Right now, write down 3 of our worst habits.

Choose one of them you really don’t want in your life.

And dedicate yourself to changing that one habit.

Once that one is out of your life, move on to the next, and then the next.

IF you change all 3 bad habits and replace them with 3 new positive habits.

Your life 10, 15, 30 years from now will be a much more favorable place than where it would be with those habits.

We are all self made, but only the successful are willing to admit it.

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With Sincere Gratitude,

Nick Yurek

Life Coach

Become A Master of Thought Part 1

Our thoughts; what a thought truly is and how to evaluate thought for to become more than your mind.

What is thought really?

On a molecular level, a thoughts are an electric pattern of signal fired from neuron to neuron in the brain.Thoughts can be, and aren’t limited to, an idea or memory in the form of picture, sound, and are often accompanied by a body sensation or feeling.

How to evaluate thoughts to cultivate success, inner peace, and true joy?

Oftentimes I hear stories of people talking about a positive mental attitude and removing negative thought. Granted there is nothing wrong with having a positive mental attitude and fostering an optimistic view of things, the problem comes when we resist the negative thoughts.

It is simply in the nature of this 2 million year old lump of matter called the human brain to pick out what’s wrong in its environment— to find what is negative. It is the brains job to keep up out of danger, discomfort, and pain by focusing on what can hurt you.

When people are trying to make a turn around in their life, some decide to cultivate a positive mental attitude. The biggest challenge they have is that though they’ve decided to live life from this positive mindset, they get discouraged, frustrated, and even angry over reoccurring negative thoughts. So the question we must ask ourselves is—how do I keep a positive attitude in the face of adversity caused by my own mind?

First, I suggest we throw out the idea that thoughts are positive or negative. Instead, let’s label thoughts as helpful or harmful. For example, you have the idea to eat and the first thing that pops into your head is a nice double stacked bacon cheese burger—helpful or harmful?

Well that depends, you then have to think what outcome do I want from this meal? Is it to have something that nourishes your body? In which case, maybe it’s time to grab a salad and black beans. Or maybe it’s Saturday and you’ve been eating a slow carbohydrate diet to loose weight and today is your day to SPLURGE? In which case it’s time to eat.

Notice what I did there—I asked myself the question of what exactly do I want to get from this meal. By first asking that question, I was able to decide if I wanted the burger or not based on the context of what stage of my diet I’m in. When you have a thought that catches your attention

Here is how to deal with a harmful, ‘negative,’ thought:

  1. Accept 
  2. Feel
  3. Appreciate
  4. Transfer

Accept the fact that in this moment you are thinking negatively, judgmentally, selfishly.

Feel the negative thoughts accompanying body sensation, is it a tightening of the stomach or throat in discomfort; or maybe you are so deeply routed in the negative pattern that you actually feel a bit of comfort in talking yourself down. The latter is where I once found myself; but by using this technique and the others mentioned in this article I now have much more control over what gives me pain and what gives me pleasure

Appreciate the fact that your brain, the center of your nervous system, the part of your body which process sound, sight, taste, objects, and smells around you. Have you ever been in love? Thank your brain for allowing you to experience such a wonderful emotion.

Transfer your focus from what you don’t want (the negative thought) to what you do want. If you’re self-talk is about hating yourself, say “I like myself.” Something so simple literally alters the chemical signals in your brain and thus altering the direction your life is going.

 

With Sincere Gratitude,

Nick Yurek