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Making The Mind Your Best Friend—Overcome Negative Thinking—Becoming A Master Of Thought—(Part 3)

Making The Mind Your Best Friend—How to overcome negative thinking and live the good life.

Our mind reacts to our environment a rather reflexive way.

Thoughts run in and out of our awareness on a practically constant basis, producing sometimes irrational and some being outright strange images, beliefs, and feelings.

The issue I’d like to tackle here is that we tend to take our thoughts seriously which can make the mind your biggest enemy.

Let’s Make The Mind Your Best Friend

Our thoughts and our mind helps guide us through some of life’s most challenging events and tasks such as succeeding in our work/career, completing an education, and navigating relationships.

Our mind helps us to problem-solve, discover new things, concentrate on difficult tasks, and recall information.

These are just a few examples of the functions of our mind and our thoughts and they are essential to our survival as a species.

We Rely On It To Get Us Through Life, To Achieve, And To Grow.

We lean heavily into these incredible ability’s of mind and learn to attach ourselves to it and and thought.

But What Happens When Our Thoughts Are Not Useful, Goal-Oriented, And Efficient?

What happens when our thoughts take us places we don’t want to go?

Although our mind produces thoughts that help us through purposeful tasks, we must realize that our mind, when left on its own to wander, will begin a process that I like to call random creation.

The mind will serve this purposeless function of creating thoughts that are not necessarily in line with who we are, what we feel, and what we believe.

We internalize these thoughts, thinking that the thoughts represent us, that the thoughts are a depiction of what is going on within us and around us.

We believe that we are our thoughts.

This Is Commonly Referred To As Being Overly Attached To Our Thoughts.

When our thoughts take an unexpected (and unhelpful) direction, its like being in the driver’s seat of a car, but feeling as if someone else is controlling the steering wheel, the gas pedal, and the brakes, all at the same time.

We try desperately to take control of the wheel due to fear of crashing and in our desperation, we risk doing just that: Crash.

We start to focus on the things we don’t want to think about and in turn, think about them even more.

The Trick Is To Cease Control Completely.

Let go of the wheel.

How do you let go?

Just as you would a heavy bag.

Drop it.

Don’t try to control the thoughts.

Let them go.

When we are attached/separate, we realize that our mind is developing thoughts that do not represent who we are, but we struggle to draw the line in the sand between the self and thought.

We engage in harshly judging the thoughts (and ourselves too) and we can become emotionally and even physically drained by our thoughts, as they can at times dictate how we function and the quality of our day-to-day life.

This creates a self-reinforcing loop of suffering that is simply not necessary.

The person who suffers before it is necessary, suffers more than is necessary.

When the self and thought are separate, we are free from the emotional burden that thoughts can create.

We see thoughts as a separate entity from the self and this is when we interpret thoughts as neither good or bad, helpful or harmful, positive or negative.

We are able to observe thoughts as they come and go without feeling shame, anxiety, worry, or sadness as a result.

This gives us the clarity to become more present in our lives, to make better decisions, to experience greater creativity, and to enjoy our lives more freely.

As Mentioned Earlier…

The mind can be your best friend, helping you solve problem, build meaningful relationships, and bring  safety to your ;life.

However, the mind can be your worst enemy, telling you things like ‘you’re not good enough,’ ‘you don’t deserve what you want,’ or something as severe as ‘you should kill yourself.’

In my life, I have experience those, and many more negative thoughts pop into my head.

Fortunately, I was able to rectify this relationship between myself and the mind.

Here Is How…

See the mind as a garden.

Thoughts such as ‘you aren’t good enough’ are the weeds of your garden.

Thoughts such as ‘what can I learn from this?’ ‘what am I grateful for,’ or ‘how can I use this experience to help me in the future;’ are the roses and tulips.

It takes very little, if any, work for weeds to grow in your garden.

As in, if you don’t tend to your garden the weeds will grow.

The Key To A Healthy Garden

A.K.A. a healthy mind.

Is to tend your garden.

You have to plant the seeds of the type of vegetation you want reap later on.

You must tend to these seeds by watering them, fertilizing them, and pull out any weeds before they grow bigger—kill the monster while it’s small.

If You Wish To Reap Roses, Plant Rose Seeds.

What I really mean is if you want to feel a happy, plant the seeds of happiness in your mind.

Do things you love to do, read books that inspire you, listen to motivational speeches.

If you want to be a successful entrepreneur, then the seeds you want to plant are that of hard work, self-education, tenacity, strength, and wisdom.

If you are someone who wants to be successful entrepreneur and are drinking every night, you are basically planting cucumber seeds, expecting a rose to sprout.

What You Sow Is What You Reap.

Sow the seeds of wisdom, inspiration, motivation, by reading something daily that will give you the insights you need to succeed at what it is you want to do.

Here is my challenge to you…

Right now, write down 3 of our worst habits.

Choose one of them you really don’t want in your life.

And dedicate yourself to changing that one habit.

Once that one is out of your life, move on to the next, and then the next.

IF you change all 3 bad habits and replace them with 3 new positive habits.

Your life 10, 15, 30 years from now will be a much more favorable place than where it would be with those habits.

We are all self made, but only the successful are willing to admit it.

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With Sincere Gratitude,

Nick Yurek

Life Coach

It’s ALL about Why

Why Do You Do What You Do?

Why do you do what you do?

Possibly the most important question you can ask someone.

The answer they give you can provide valuable insight into their motivation, beliefs, values, and rules about life.

He who has a why to live an bear almost any how” —Friedrich Neitzsche

I believe that life is 80% why and 20% how.

Which would mean that everything in your life; your income, your friends, your health, ect… is primarily the way it is because of you why.

The abundance, or lack of abundance, in your life is because you of you why…

If you are looking at your life and you see that you’re performing well at your job, it’s likely do to you having a very strong reason why you want to perform at a peak level.

You why could be because your work is something you LOVE doing…

Maybe it’s because you feel your work is impact, and has a deeper meaning to you.

Maybe it’s because you have kids and you want to provide the best life for them.

On the other hand…

You might be looking at an area of your life, for example your body, and thinking that it’s less than it could or should be.

I am here to tell you today that if you take some time to figure out why you’re lacking in this area, and most importantly, discover why you want to be healthier, more fit.

If you have a big enough reason why to do something, it will become a must.

Turn Your Should’s Into Must’s

People don’t change when they know they should do something…

People change when they must do something…

Once you make the transition from ‘I should do this.’

To ‘I MUST do this!’

Your entire life will be set on a totally  new,  and positive destination.

How to Trade Your Should’s For Must’s

Find a large enough reason why…

How to Discover Your Why

You can discover your why in many ways…

  • experience
  • failure
  • modeling others

But the most effective and quickest way to discover your reason why is by finding somewhere quiet and bring a pen and paper.

Turn your phone on airplane mode and set the timer for 1 hour.

Force yourself to sit there with the pen on paper for 60 minutes while you contemplate and illustrate the reason why you’re going to become healthier, become happier, become more successful.

The Best In The World

Discover Your Reason whyThe best in the world at any given field are where they are today because they worked as hard as they could.

They sacrificed their mornings, afternoons, evenings, weekends, and sleep to get to where they are today.

The things is that it’s not easy to achieve greatness, however what we all need to understand is that  when we have a compelling reason why…for instance wanting to be the absolute best you can be because there are people out there who believed in you while you didn’t believe in yourself, and they deserve to see you succeed…all the hard work will be not only worth it, but you will enjoy it.

That reason why is great because it is bigger than you.

It’s Bigger Than You

Realize that every day there are people depending on you for your energy, for you strength, for your love.

Everyday we have to go out and stick to a daily process, daily disciplines that help propel you forward.

Success does not come easy.

There Are No Such Thing of an Overnight Success

People tend to call successful people ‘over night successes…’

That is total bullshit.

It’s a long road ahead if you want to be successful.

If you can find me one person who has EVER become an overnight success I can  guarantee you that I can prove that you’re just trying to rationalize it in your head and that they’re actually worked for YEARS.

A great example of an ‘overnight success’ is Lebron James.

Everyone was shocked why he joined the NBA, “how can he have this natural born talent at such a young age?”

The dude had been playing basketball for 15 YEARS before he went pro.

Stick to the Process

Find your reason why, find out why you want to be successful, why you no longer want to live depressed, why you’re going to turn your life around.

Discover a set of daily disciplines that you can perform each day that will get you better.

This is What I Focus On

I focus on the process.

Each day I spend 2-3 hours minimum, as soon as I wake up, working on developing myself.

I do this to become more valuable as a person.

Because the true value of wealth is measured by if they took all your money away, what would you be worth?

Develop the skills necessary to handle the challenges life throws at you.

The Life I’ve Lived, Life Throws A Whole Lot At You

You will not be ready when life hits you with adversity.

The only way you’re going to be able to get up and out of bed and perform at your best is if you have a strong enough reason why to do it.

Your why will carry you to new heights.

It’s Not About Motivation, It’s About Why

I am constantly asked about how to become more motivated.

The answer is simple, having a BIG driving force (a big reason why to do something).

Because your reason why will make it so you aren’t having to push yourself, but you will be pulled to where you want to go.

I Am Here For You

I am here to help anyone and everyone who is looking for new ways to develop themselves into someone who has success.

I believe that success is something you attract by the person you become.

As your coach I can help you uncover a compelling reason why that will help pull you to where you deserve to be in life.

Together we can create success rituals that will help you to grow and expand your capabilities to heights you never thought possible.

Go to our Life Coaching Page to learn more!

 

With Sincere Gratitude,

Nick Yurek

Life Coach

 

 

Three Quotes That Changed My Life and Can Change Yours For The Better

Three Quotes That Can Change Your Life Forever

This blog is about the three most recent quotes posted to the Uplifting Quotes Page.

A page designed for myself and my readers to visit whenever we are in need of inspiration, wisdom, insight, or all three.

Sometimes we need a little juice to get the engines going, having some insightful wisdom dumped on you can be the spark you need!

Here are three quotes that have helped shape who I am today.

You Have the Power to Create

“People who make it in life look around for what they want, and if they don’t find it, they create it.”—George Bernard Shaw

This quote really resonated with me a few months back and was exactly what I needed to motivate me in starting my online business’.

It touches on the 3 key attributes of all leaders.

  1. See things for exactly as they are
  2. See things as being better than they are
  3. Taking action and making things better than they are

If there is something in your life that you truly want, create it.

Opportunity doesn’t come knocking on your door, you bust opportunity’s door down and say “look what I created for the world,” I promise you, opportunity will reward you.

Realize that everything in your life, good and bad, is there because you created it.

If you don’t like where you live, move, you’re not a tree.

If you think you’re stupid, pick up a book and change it.

If you think you’re fat, get off your ass, move, learn how to properly breath, how to properly eat and create an alkaline body.

Life’s a Journey, Not a Destination

“Focus on the journey not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.”—Greg Anderson

This was another quote that really pushed me in the direction I am going today.

Picture this, a junior in college, half way through a degree that he didn’t really feel passionate about, infact that he didn’t even want to use when he graduated, and the only thing keeping him going was the false perception that as long as I have a diploma, he’s set.

If you guess, unfulfilled, unhappy, and lacking focused, Ding Ding Ding, you’re right!

I only focused on the destination, completely overlooking the present moment and on enjoying the journey.

After much planning I decided to leave school and peruse self-education.

Today I am making more money, living happier, and on a path that lights my fire and makes me want to live more of life.

If you want to learn about how to start your own journey of fulfillment and success check out this article -> What Does An Extraordinary Life Look Like To You <-

The Behavior Chain

“Sow a thought and you reap an action; sow an act and you reap a habit; sow a habit and you reap a character; sow a character and you reap a destiny.”—Ralph Waldo Emerson

This quote says it all, what we hold in our minds—pictures, sounds, and ideas—is precisely what we will experience.

Our thoughts are like seeds, the thought seeds you plant turn into the actions you take.

Your actions, when performed consistently, turn into habits.

We are what we habitually do, because our habits show what our character is.

Your character is ultimately what creates the direction your destiny moves in.

Be the watcher and guider of your mind.

Plant seeds of optimism, success, and love.

The True Power

The true power in these words of wisdom comes in you acting on anything that moved you!

Action is POWER!

If there is something you want, get out there and get it!

If you want to become more than you presently are and don’t know how to become more valuable, sign up for a free coaching session to learn how today!

Become A Master of Thought Part 1

Our thoughts; what a thought truly is and how to evaluate thought for to become more than your mind.

What is thought really?

On a molecular level, a thoughts are an electric pattern of signal fired from neuron to neuron in the brain.Thoughts can be, and aren’t limited to, an idea or memory in the form of picture, sound, and are often accompanied by a body sensation or feeling.

How to evaluate thoughts to cultivate success, inner peace, and true joy?

Oftentimes I hear stories of people talking about a positive mental attitude and removing negative thought. Granted there is nothing wrong with having a positive mental attitude and fostering an optimistic view of things, the problem comes when we resist the negative thoughts.

It is simply in the nature of this 2 million year old lump of matter called the human brain to pick out what’s wrong in its environment— to find what is negative. It is the brains job to keep up out of danger, discomfort, and pain by focusing on what can hurt you.

When people are trying to make a turn around in their life, some decide to cultivate a positive mental attitude. The biggest challenge they have is that though they’ve decided to live life from this positive mindset, they get discouraged, frustrated, and even angry over reoccurring negative thoughts. So the question we must ask ourselves is—how do I keep a positive attitude in the face of adversity caused by my own mind?

First, I suggest we throw out the idea that thoughts are positive or negative. Instead, let’s label thoughts as helpful or harmful. For example, you have the idea to eat and the first thing that pops into your head is a nice double stacked bacon cheese burger—helpful or harmful?

Well that depends, you then have to think what outcome do I want from this meal? Is it to have something that nourishes your body? In which case, maybe it’s time to grab a salad and black beans. Or maybe it’s Saturday and you’ve been eating a slow carbohydrate diet to loose weight and today is your day to SPLURGE? In which case it’s time to eat.

Notice what I did there—I asked myself the question of what exactly do I want to get from this meal. By first asking that question, I was able to decide if I wanted the burger or not based on the context of what stage of my diet I’m in. When you have a thought that catches your attention

Here is how to deal with a harmful, ‘negative,’ thought:

  1. Accept 
  2. Feel
  3. Appreciate
  4. Transfer

Accept the fact that in this moment you are thinking negatively, judgmentally, selfishly.

Feel the negative thoughts accompanying body sensation, is it a tightening of the stomach or throat in discomfort; or maybe you are so deeply routed in the negative pattern that you actually feel a bit of comfort in talking yourself down. The latter is where I once found myself; but by using this technique and the others mentioned in this article I now have much more control over what gives me pain and what gives me pleasure

Appreciate the fact that your brain, the center of your nervous system, the part of your body which process sound, sight, taste, objects, and smells around you. Have you ever been in love? Thank your brain for allowing you to experience such a wonderful emotion.

Transfer your focus from what you don’t want (the negative thought) to what you do want. If you’re self-talk is about hating yourself, say “I like myself.” Something so simple literally alters the chemical signals in your brain and thus altering the direction your life is going.

 

With Sincere Gratitude,

Nick Yurek

 

Embrace Emotions Rather Than Fight Them With The ABC Breathing Exercise

Embrace Emotions Rather Than Fight Them With The ABC Breathing Exercise

Emotions are the body sensations we feel that are a direct result of the thoughts we have. For example you could feel; a tightness or even light and spacious in the stomach, chest, throat.

These physical sensations you experience when you are nervous, excited, happy, sad, angry, or cheerful are emotions that people generally experience on a daily basis.

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Here is a quick ABC method developed by Dr. Ela Manga to help you get comfortable with feelings and making a space for them rather than feeding it.

  • Awareness: Take a moment and become aware of what you are experiencing physically, emotionally, mentally, on a moment to moment basis without doing anything about it. Ask yourself questions like:
    • What am I feeling right now?
    • Am I at ease with myself right now?
    • What is going on inside of my body right now?
  • Breathing: Create a space for what you are becoming aware of—tightness, tingling, pulsing—by breathing into it, allowing the sensations to move about. This can create a freeing spaciousness for you.
  • Conscious Choice: Once you have completed And B, you will be more equipped to consciously respond to a given situation and make a clear, congruent response rather than by reacting to it with a habitual, counter productive, conditioned response.

Don’t believe me when I say this works, try it for yourself and you will find out for yourself.

I challenge you to use this ABC method each day, 3 times a day for 5 minutes.

I would take an experienced guess that you will begin to make healthier, positive decisions in conversations and beyond.

If You Want to Master Your Life By Mastering Your Breathing…

Check out our sister site breathingparadise.com for tools, strategies, and ideas that will help you master your entire life through breathing.

For more information on breathing for mind, body and spirit, I highly to our recommended reads page to check learn moor about the book which inspired this post Just Breath.

With Sincere Gratitude,

Nick Yurek

Personal Development Coach

Citations:

BRULE, DAN. “Dr. Ela Manga’s ABC.” JUST BREATHE: Mastering Breathwork for Success in Life, Love, Business, and beyond. S.l.: ENLIVEN, 2018. 87. Print.

Why We Need Daily Personal Development

To have more money, friends, happiness, love, ect., you MUST first become the person who attracts more money; more friends, more happiness, more love—the more of whatever it is that you want, you MUST become the person who attracts what you want through daily personal development.

To paraphrase Jim Rohn: “To have more than you’ve got in any area of your life, you must become more than you are, for things to change, you have to change.

For things to get better, you have to get better; don’t wish for less problems, wish for more wisdom; don’t wish for fewer challenge, wish for more skills; don’t wish for less struggle, wish for more ideas.”

Don’t get confused when I say that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You do not have to change.

BUT IF you want to have more financial abundance, more emotional fitness, more mental clarity, more physical ability, more spiritual presence, then you MUST become more than you presently are.

IF you want more, which it is perfectly healthy to want more health, more love, more connection; you must develop yourself into the kind of person who is attracting more love, more connection, more health.

Why?

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Because success is something you attract by the person you become.

Success is not something you pursue, it’s something you attract by the person you become. You attract more love by becoming more loving towards others.

You attract more money by providing more VALUE to others.

You attract more health by eating nutritious meals, exercising and changing your overall lifestyle to BECOME healthier.

An important distinction, one I’ve learned the hard way, is that you must become more of what you are.

I would try to become more of what other people are to attract success, and let me warn you, that will just run you into the ground.

When you aren’t letting your true self be seen, when you allow jealousy, envy, and shame of others creep into your mind and hinder your soul you lose touch with your true being and begin to regress.

Allow me to be the model of becoming more of who you truly are.

What I mean by this is that you’ll want to take the strategies that other people use to become more and apply the ultimate success formula to it:

  1. Decide exactly what it is that you want∗—Clarity is POWER!Reticular Activating System is a part of the brain that decides what is important and what is not. It is where our natural ability to focus comes from. When you are clear about exactly what you want your brain begins to focus on anything that has to do with that object, feeling, or result.
  2. Notice what’s working for you and what’s not—you must have an acute sensitivity to what actions you are taking and the results you are getting from those actions. Do you continuously find yourself stopping at a fast food restaurant? Here’s a tip, decide that you do not want to eat processed foods any more and notice when you start thinking about eating fast foods. Is it when you’re hungry? When you’re watching tv? When you drive past a Mcdonalds or Burger King? Be acutely sensitive to your thoughts and emotion—the body sensations resulting from our thoughts—to see what is producing the desired or undesirable results.
  3. Commit to staying flexible in your approach UNTIL you succeed∗—Question, how long do you give the average baby to learn how to walk? How long until you say “that’s it, this baby keeps on falling, he/she is never going to learn to walk?” I would hallucinate that you see what my point is here, the vast majority of humans have learned to walk because they tried UNTIL they succeed. Magic formula, huh?

Is this going to guarantee you success? Is becoming more than you are really going to guarantee that you become loved, wealthy, and healthy?

I’m not delusional, it will not guarantee a thing…

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Anyone who tries to tell you anything different should make you put your wallet away and get the heck out of there.

But let me ask you a few questions…

  • If you develop yourself into a person with healthy habits do you think you’ll become healthier?
  • If you give more love, do you think you’ll receive love in return? Will you feel more loving and loved?
  • If you take daily action to make more money, do you think you’ll earn more money?
  • If you decide exactly what it is that you want, then notice what’s working for you and what’s not.

Commit to staying flexible in your approach UNTIL you succeed. What do you think your chances are of succeeding?

Find a friend, find a good book, find a personal development coach who can help you create and attract the life you desire!

Here is a great place to start or continue your journey of becoming more.

Please, comment below your story of where you are in your life, where you want to be, and how you’d like to get there.

Also if you got something from this post, please like and share it so your friends and family can gain something from it too!

With Sincere Gratitude,

Nick Yurek

Personal Development Coach

Citations:

∗Robbins, Anthony. Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical & Financial Destiny!Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical & Financial Destiny! New York: Simon & Schuster Paperbacks, 2013. Print