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Why We Need Daily Personal Development

To have more money, friends, happiness, love, ect., you MUST first become the person who attracts more money; more friends, more happiness, more love—the more of whatever it is that you want, you MUST become the person who attracts what you want through daily personal development.

To paraphrase Jim Rohn: “To have more than you’ve got in any area of your life, you must become more than you are, for things to change, you have to change.

For things to get better, you have to get better; don’t wish for less problems, wish for more wisdom; don’t wish for fewer challenge, wish for more skills; don’t wish for less struggle, wish for more ideas.”

Don’t get confused when I say that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You do not have to change.

BUT IF you want to have more financial abundance, more emotional fitness, more mental clarity, more physical ability, more spiritual presence, then you MUST become more than you presently are.

IF you want more, which it is perfectly healthy to want more health, more love, more connection; you must develop yourself into the kind of person who is attracting more love, more connection, more health.

Why?

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Because success is something you attract by the person you become.

Success is not something you pursue, it’s something you attract by the person you become. You attract more love by becoming more loving towards others.

You attract more money by providing more VALUE to others.

You attract more health by eating nutritious meals, exercising and changing your overall lifestyle to BECOME healthier.

An important distinction, one I’ve learned the hard way, is that you must become more of what you are.

I would try to become more of what other people are to attract success, and let me warn you, that will just run you into the ground.

When you aren’t letting your true self be seen, when you allow jealousy, envy, and shame of others creep into your mind and hinder your soul you lose touch with your true being and begin to regress.

Allow me to be the model of becoming more of who you truly are.

What I mean by this is that you’ll want to take the strategies that other people use to become more and apply the ultimate success formula to it:

  1. Decide exactly what it is that you want∗—Clarity is POWER!Reticular Activating System is a part of the brain that decides what is important and what is not. It is where our natural ability to focus comes from. When you are clear about exactly what you want your brain begins to focus on anything that has to do with that object, feeling, or result.
  2. Notice what’s working for you and what’s not—you must have an acute sensitivity to what actions you are taking and the results you are getting from those actions. Do you continuously find yourself stopping at a fast food restaurant? Here’s a tip, decide that you do not want to eat processed foods any more and notice when you start thinking about eating fast foods. Is it when you’re hungry? When you’re watching tv? When you drive past a Mcdonalds or Burger King? Be acutely sensitive to your thoughts and emotion—the body sensations resulting from our thoughts—to see what is producing the desired or undesirable results.
  3. Commit to staying flexible in your approach UNTIL you succeed∗—Question, how long do you give the average baby to learn how to walk? How long until you say “that’s it, this baby keeps on falling, he/she is never going to learn to walk?” I would hallucinate that you see what my point is here, the vast majority of humans have learned to walk because they tried UNTIL they succeed. Magic formula, huh?

Is this going to guarantee you success? Is becoming more than you are really going to guarantee that you become loved, wealthy, and healthy?

I’m not delusional, it will not guarantee a thing…

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Anyone who tries to tell you anything different should make you put your wallet away and get the heck out of there.

But let me ask you a few questions…

  • If you develop yourself into a person with healthy habits do you think you’ll become healthier?
  • If you give more love, do you think you’ll receive love in return? Will you feel more loving and loved?
  • If you take daily action to make more money, do you think you’ll earn more money?
  • If you decide exactly what it is that you want, then notice what’s working for you and what’s not.

Commit to staying flexible in your approach UNTIL you succeed. What do you think your chances are of succeeding?

Find a friend, find a good book, find a personal development coach who can help you create and attract the life you desire!

Here is a great place to start or continue your journey of becoming more.

Please, comment below your story of where you are in your life, where you want to be, and how you’d like to get there.

Also if you got something from this post, please like and share it so your friends and family can gain something from it too!

With Sincere Gratitude,

Nick Yurek

Personal Development Coach

Citations:

∗Robbins, Anthony. Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical & Financial Destiny!Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical & Financial Destiny! New York: Simon & Schuster Paperbacks, 2013. Print

Becoming Happier In 10 Seconds

Becoming Happier In With This 10 Second Technique

The way the human brain is biologically wired does not make it easy to be happy. Why? Because of the same reason we as a species have become the most advanced species on the planet. Our brains our wired to find what is wrong with the world, not what is good and prosperous. Happiness is up to you. You CAN take charge of your happiness and you MUST take charge of it if living a fulfilled life is something that interests you. We will go over a simple practice that takes about 10 seconds to shift your mind from its primitive wiring that causes suffering to seeking out the abundance and happiness you already posses right now. But first let’s dive a little deeper into this word ‘suffering.’

Putting An End To Psychological Suffering

Personally I believe that if there is an end to human suffering, human psychological suffering, then it should be the number one most researched area of science. Do I believe it is possible? Yes.

Yes because we can take little every day actions to combat the worry, the doubt, and the feeling of not being worth jack. Later, you and I will get into the step by step strategies that will make you feel happier in just 10 seconds. For now, we must have a foundational understanding of what suffering is and what it is caused by.

Flavors of Suffering

Suffering has many different flavors to it, think of it like an ice cream parlor of pain. You can have hurt, discomfort, fear, loneliness, inadequacy, anger, depressed, overwhelm, and many more. Right now knowing these flavors of pain isn’t important, what is important is knowing where they are cultivated from.

The flavors of suffering sprout from a feeling of loss, less, and never. Losing a loved one, getting dumped or divorced, breaking your brand new iphone, can all cause pain in the sense of loss. Feeling like you’re body isn’t trim enough, your car isn’t nice enough, your family isn’t normal enough, are all pain in the form of less or less than. The pain caused from feeling like never being good enough, never getting paid enough, never good looking enough, are all psychological mind projections that send  rush of chemicals through the body creating feelings of suffering. Ultimately these flavors of suffering really come from feeling like you aren’t good enough. You are completely focused in on yourself, on what you presently lack.

This lack of worthiness and suffering is a disease that seems overwhelming but is actually very simple to combat once you understand the systematic causes of them and the strategies to get out of suffering. When you are suffering and soly focused in on yourself, your 2 million year old brain that is designed to find what is wrong in the world is then activated to do what it does best…TELL YOU WHAT’S MISSING.

Your brain is technically doing it’s job to keep you alive. So the first step to eliminate or reduce your suffering is by recognizing that you have a fully functioning and healthy brain! Think you’re overweight? GOOD your brain is recognizing “hey this is not okay, I’m not healthy. This needs to change, and I must change it.” Your brain then sends sensations through the body to tell it that the life you’re currently living is killing you slowly.

Next flex your birthright to direct your focus and take 10 seconds to become happy.

If you’re around people then simply pick 2 people in the room and as you look at one of them think to yourself “May you find peace. May you find love. May you find health and happiness.” Repeat the mantra at least 5 times and feel good about utilizing your other human birthright of compassion.

Next, look at the other person—this could be a relative, friend, coworker, or a complete stranger. And yes, look at them, if they ask why you’re looking at them just say because I care about you! You will get out of suffering and make their day—and repeat the mantra “I am sending you health, wealth, and happiness” at least 5 times in your mind.

This may sound oversimplified, good, it’s supposed to be. First, it is the simplified version of a formal kindness practice. Second, success, however you define it, is simple—IF you use the right tried and tested strategies.

I have used this practice many, many times. I remember the first time I used it, I was at the DMV getting my license renewed. There was a problem with the documentation I brought and after a 2 hour wait to even speak to a person, you could probably hallucinate that I was a bit peeved when I found that out. That was the perfect sinareo to test out this new practice to become happier in 10 seconds. I shifted my attention and focus onto 2 random strangers and sent them my positive intentions. By the time I was finished I had realized that my body was less tense and my mind had leveled out.

Lastly, Be Grateful

Get grateful that you are one in 8 billion people and you are intelligent, creative, and resourceful enough to direct your mental and emotional state. As a call to action, right now practice this simple exercise to eliminate any feelings of suffering and cultivate gratitude!

 

Nick Yurek

Don’t Settle. Create. 

Personal Development Coach