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Become A Master of Thought Part 1

Our thoughts; what a thought truly is and how to evaluate thought for to become more than your mind.

What is thought really?

On a molecular level, a thoughts are an electric pattern of signal fired from neuron to neuron in the brain.Thoughts can be, and aren’t limited to, an idea or memory in the form of picture, sound, and are often accompanied by a body sensation or feeling.

How to evaluate thoughts to cultivate success, inner peace, and true joy?

Oftentimes I hear stories of people talking about a positive mental attitude and removing negative thought. Granted there is nothing wrong with having a positive mental attitude and fostering an optimistic view of things, the problem comes when we resist the negative thoughts.

It is simply in the nature of this 2 million year old lump of matter called the human brain to pick out what’s wrong in its environment— to find what is negative. It is the brains job to keep up out of danger, discomfort, and pain by focusing on what can hurt you.

When people are trying to make a turn around in their life, some decide to cultivate a positive mental attitude. The biggest challenge they have is that though they’ve decided to live life from this positive mindset, they get discouraged, frustrated, and even angry over reoccurring negative thoughts. So the question we must ask ourselves is—how do I keep a positive attitude in the face of adversity caused by my own mind?

First, I suggest we throw out the idea that thoughts are positive or negative. Instead, let’s label thoughts as helpful or harmful. For example, you have the idea to eat and the first thing that pops into your head is a nice double stacked bacon cheese burger—helpful or harmful?

Well that depends, you then have to think what outcome do I want from this meal? Is it to have something that nourishes your body? In which case, maybe it’s time to grab a salad and black beans. Or maybe it’s Saturday and you’ve been eating a slow carbohydrate diet to loose weight and today is your day to SPLURGE? In which case it’s time to eat.

Notice what I did there—I asked myself the question of what exactly do I want to get from this meal. By first asking that question, I was able to decide if I wanted the burger or not based on the context of what stage of my diet I’m in. When you have a thought that catches your attention

Here is how to deal with a harmful, ‘negative,’ thought:

  1. Accept 
  2. Feel
  3. Appreciate
  4. Transfer

Accept the fact that in this moment you are thinking negatively, judgmentally, selfishly.

Feel the negative thoughts accompanying body sensation, is it a tightening of the stomach or throat in discomfort; or maybe you are so deeply routed in the negative pattern that you actually feel a bit of comfort in talking yourself down. The latter is where I once found myself; but by using this technique and the others mentioned in this article I now have much more control over what gives me pain and what gives me pleasure

Appreciate the fact that your brain, the center of your nervous system, the part of your body which process sound, sight, taste, objects, and smells around you. Have you ever been in love? Thank your brain for allowing you to experience such a wonderful emotion.

Transfer your focus from what you don’t want (the negative thought) to what you do want. If you’re self-talk is about hating yourself, say “I like myself.” Something so simple literally alters the chemical signals in your brain and thus altering the direction your life is going.

 

With Sincere Gratitude,

Nick Yurek