Becoming Happier In With This 10 Second Technique
The way the human brain is biologically wired does not make it easy to be happy. Why? Because of the same reason we as a species have become the most advanced species on the planet. Our brains our wired to find what is wrong with the world, not what is good and prosperous. Happiness is up to you. You CAN take charge of your happiness and you MUST take charge of it if living a fulfilled life is something that interests you. We will go over a simple practice that takes about 10 seconds to shift your mind from its primitive wiring that causes suffering to seeking out the abundance and happiness you already posses right now. But first let’s dive a little deeper into this word ‘suffering.’
Putting An End To Psychological Suffering
Personally I believe that if there is an end to human suffering, human psychological suffering, then it should be the number one most researched area of science. Do I believe it is possible? Yes.
Yes because we can take little every day actions to combat the worry, the doubt, and the feeling of not being worth jack. Later, you and I will get into the step by step strategies that will make you feel happier in just 10 seconds. For now, we must have a foundational understanding of what suffering is and what it is caused by.
Flavors of Suffering
Suffering has many different flavors to it, think of it like an ice cream parlor of pain. You can have hurt, discomfort, fear, loneliness, inadequacy, anger, depressed, overwhelm, and many more. Right now knowing these flavors of pain isn’t important, what is important is knowing where they are cultivated from.
The flavors of suffering sprout from a feeling of loss, less, and never. Losing a loved one, getting dumped or divorced, breaking your brand new iphone, can all cause pain in the sense of loss. Feeling like you’re body isn’t trim enough, your car isn’t nice enough, your family isn’t normal enough, are all pain in the form of less or less than. The pain caused from feeling like never being good enough, never getting paid enough, never good looking enough, are all psychological mind projections that send rush of chemicals through the body creating feelings of suffering. Ultimately these flavors of suffering really come from feeling like you aren’t good enough. You are completely focused in on yourself, on what you presently lack.
This lack of worthiness and suffering is a disease that seems overwhelming but is actually very simple to combat once you understand the systematic causes of them and the strategies to get out of suffering. When you are suffering and soly focused in on yourself, your 2 million year old brain that is designed to find what is wrong in the world is then activated to do what it does best…TELL YOU WHAT’S MISSING.
Your brain is technically doing it’s job to keep you alive. So the first step to eliminate or reduce your suffering is by recognizing that you have a fully functioning and healthy brain! Think you’re overweight? GOOD your brain is recognizing “hey this is not okay, I’m not healthy. This needs to change, and I must change it.” Your brain then sends sensations through the body to tell it that the life you’re currently living is killing you slowly.
Next flex your birthright to direct your focus and take 10 seconds to become happy.
If you’re around people then simply pick 2 people in the room and as you look at one of them think to yourself “May you find peace. May you find love. May you find health and happiness.” Repeat the mantra at least 5 times and feel good about utilizing your other human birthright of compassion.
Next, look at the other person—this could be a relative, friend, coworker, or a complete stranger. And yes, look at them, if they ask why you’re looking at them just say because I care about you! You will get out of suffering and make their day—and repeat the mantra “I am sending you health, wealth, and happiness” at least 5 times in your mind.
This may sound oversimplified, good, it’s supposed to be. First, it is the simplified version of a formal kindness practice. Second, success, however you define it, is simple—IF you use the right tried and tested strategies.
I have used this practice many, many times. I remember the first time I used it, I was at the DMV getting my license renewed. There was a problem with the documentation I brought and after a 2 hour wait to even speak to a person, you could probably hallucinate that I was a bit peeved when I found that out. That was the perfect sinareo to test out this new practice to become happier in 10 seconds. I shifted my attention and focus onto 2 random strangers and sent them my positive intentions. By the time I was finished I had realized that my body was less tense and my mind had leveled out.
Lastly, Be Grateful
Get grateful that you are one in 8 billion people and you are intelligent, creative, and resourceful enough to direct your mental and emotional state. As a call to action, right now practice this simple exercise to eliminate any feelings of suffering and cultivate gratitude!
Don’t Settle. Create.